The Balanced Life – Lazy Sunday Afternoons

writing nest    It’s a lazy Sunday afternoon.  The house has been cleaned (well, enough to get by), the laundry is humming, my daughter and grandson are coming, and life feels balanced.  Tomorrow I go back to work, as well as my husband, five weeks after his hip replacement surgery.  I expect him to be extremely tired when he comes home.  But, he says there’s no time like the present.  He needs to go back and I know he is getting bored at home.

My daughter wants to take the dog to the dog park when she gets here – even if it is hot outside.  I used to be a sun worshiper.  As I age, I think I like cloudy, cool days better, but the dog won’t care.

I have been reading and re-reading the first galley (a gift from my editor) for Secrets of Sandhill Island that will be coming out later this summer.  A great beach read with a twist.  It is a romance/suspense I think you’ll enjoy.

The slow circling of the ceiling fan moves the already refrigerated air around the room and I am content just to sit and write.

Sundays are meant for rest and recuperation. What are you doing this afternoon?

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The Balance of Fatherhood

dad    Fatherhood is a delicate balance of gentleness and strength.  The old saying “anyone can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy” could not be truer.  This wonderful picture of my dad when he was young has always been one of my favorites.  He actually went to a photographer which was very unusual for the hard working middle class aircraft mechanic.  Mom must have made him, and I’m so glad she did.  He was a handsome man, a gentle father and a good provider for his family of all women.  The poor man never had a chance.

I looked through pictures for one of my husband and the father of my children but couldn’t find any of them together.  He was always behind the camera since he was the better photographer and any pictures I found were of me and the kids.  So I used this picture of us on our wedding day.  We are leaving the church embarking on an adventure together.  So young and full of hope, the world had not yet beat us down and the only thing we owned was the car. He would be a new father in the next year and our tiny family of two was about to grow. He was ecstatic. He had no idea he would be a baseball coach, Boy Scout Leader and motorcycle mechanic in addition to his regular job.

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Both men were wonderful fathers.  They put their families first and themselves second.  Maybe that was the reason they sometimes lost their tempers at childhood antics, but it didn’t take long for them to recover and realize what they had in life.  Not everyone was lucky enough to be a daddy.

Happy Father’s day to everyone reading this blog today and whether you are a father or have one, remember to enjoy what life has given you.  You are blessed.

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Balancing Surgery, Viruses and Writing

Athena    This looks like me this week.  My husband and I have been sharing a virus after his hip surgery a mere three weeks ago.  Rehab, viruses and work have taken their toll.  Even the dog is tired of this life and has gone into survival mode.   Yes, I know, I was late with the blog this week too.

But, I will survive!  How does that old song go?  And so will the husband with the new hip.  We’ll just have to slow down a little.

But, I did get some good writing done over the weekend.  I’m working on a new YA novel and trying to stick to the rules of romance writing this time.  I’m not good at following rules sometimes so I wrote it in bold letters at the bottom of my manuscript where I see it often – boy meets girl, boy loses girl, boy gets girl back.   I plan to follow them this time.  I can do this.

I can also rest and recuperate.  The caregiver has to take care of herself too.  I will get some extra rest.

So what do you do to relax when you’ve overdone it?  I write – I find it relaxing.

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Balancing a Release Date

Hurricane    This week I am back to my writing gig trying to balance work, home life, and being an author.  I’ve just sent in another round of edits to my publisher, The Wild Rose Press.  I think we may be getting closer to a release date.

My wonderful editor, Ally Robertson insisted I delete a few scenes that detracted from the main story.  I really fought against that at first – those scenes were my babies!  But, she was right.

In Secrets of Sandhilll Island a hurricane blows in just in time to cause more than its share of havoc.  I wrote a couple of chapters about the Hurricane Hunters out of Keesler AFB in the Gulf of Mexico.  I’d love to show them to you since they didn’t make it into the book.  After all, hurricane season is just around the corner.

The WC-130J Hercules and her crew of five including Major Sandy Miller, were flying near the edge of Cuba and the Florida Keys watching the changing weather circling and moving west-northwest.  She was the Aerial Reconnaissance Weather Officer on board this mission and something about this storm didn’t look right.  It originally appeared to be heading for New Orleans and the National Weather Service had been contacted to make sure New Orleans was aware of the impending danger.  No one needed another Hurricane Katrina disaster.  But, the winds and lightening were the biggest things about this storm, not the flooding rains like Katrina.  Every storm had a signature; you just needed to know how to read it.

“We need to get inside her,” Major Miller said checking and rechecking her instruments and logging them into her laptop.  She then emailed the files and her findings back to the base.  “The barometric pressure is even more unstable than normal.  It goes up and then down and I think if it could go sideways, it would.”

“I really don’t think this thing is headed for New Orleans.” Sandy looked at her instruments again.  “If I’m right, we need to let Corpus know about this.  I think it will make landfall around Corpus Christi, not New Orleans. I’m emailing the Weather Detachment at Keesler as well as the National Hurricane Center.  I don’t want anyone caught off guard.  The Corpus area is my home and it may not be my place to decide these things, but someone needs to look at this data again.”

The plane began a long lazy circle back the way it came heading directly into the swirling monster.  The sky was an eerie red as the sun began to set and the storm clouds grew darker.  Up ahead the lightning flashed quickly and Sandy knew that the light show was just beginning.

“It’s gonna’ get bumpy,” the pilot said just before the lightning strike hit the nose of the aircraft.  The whole plane shuddered and engines roared – then went deathly still. “Find something to hold on to!” the pilot shouted.  Then warning lights went off coloring the ever darkening cockpit.

“Four Engine Rollback!” shouted the captain and the crew knew they had lost all four engines and the C-130 was turning into a fifty-ton glider.

Secured in her seat and holding tightly to her laptop, Sandy could see the faces of her children in her mind.  She had to keep a clear head she told herself.  The kids were fine.  No matter what her outcome, the kids would be fine.

Alarms sounded warnings that the instruments were not working correctly.  Then they went dark and silent.              Major Miller looked out the window at the angry ocean.

The flight engineer immediately took action switching the aircraft propellers to mechanical governing and took charge of the temperature controls of the aircraft.  He didn’t want the fuel to overheat and reach the engines.  He would manipulate the temperature of the fuel himself.  He knew that this was not the first time a C-130 experienced such a catastrophe and he believed he could get them all home safely.

Within seconds, three of the four engines fluttered back to life and there was a communal sigh of relief.  They could get to dry land on three engines as long as they weren’t overcome by the storm – and the storm was right behind them.  So much for data gathering on this mission, now they concentrated on landing the huge flying hunk of metal.  All the airports would be shutting down with the bad weather.  They would either be packed with travelers or already deserted.  Key West Naval Air Station was the closest and had a runway long enough to handle the C-130. At least the radio worked and they could call in a Mayday to the base to clear a spot to land.

The landing runway at Keesler AFB was 7630 feet long and the one at Key West was 10,000 feet.  The pilots and engineer planned a long glide after touchdown.  The mechanical engineer knew that if he used the auxiliary pump to slow the plane down after landing it could cause the fuel to overheat and a flame out of the engines could result in a fire onboard.  After all they had been through they didn’t need to set the plane on fire after landing it.  It seemed like a long way to Key West over a turbulent sea.

Sandy hugged her laptop to her as they began the descent to land.  Her data was important to her and she was determined to keep it safe.

Slowly descending the glide path to land on the runway at Key West, Sandy tensed.  She completely trusted the pilots and engineer, but still she knew her life was in someone else’s hands.  She wasn’t in charge, and she didn’t like leaving her fate up to someone else.  The plane lightly touched the tarmac and began a slow-down that took much too long to make Sandy comfortable.  She would breathe again as soon as they were stopped.

Eventually the plane rolled to a stop.  A roar of celebration echoed in the giant plane congratulating the engineer and pilots for a job well done.  A job that saved five lives that day.

The doors opened and a gust of warm moist sea air blew in as Sandy and the other occupants of the plane descended.  A tug towed the big plane around and back to the hangar where the mechanics could survey the damage and begin repairs.

The winds whipped and torrents of rain began to fall as the crew climbed in the back of the pickup sent to take them to the hangar and eventually shelter for the night.  They were on the ground and safe, but the hurricane loomed in the distance. She hoped her emailed data made it to the mainland in time.

What do you think?  Should the scene have stayed?

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THE BALANCING OF A NEW HIP

hip surgery    We spent part of this week at St. Anthony’s Bone and Joint Hospital in Oklahoma City.  I hope you never need a total hip replacement, but if you do I highly recommend this place and the employees.  Drs. Jeremy White https://plus.google.com/109256131279622920722/about?gl=us&hl=e ,  Marshall Haney, and their staff made us not only feel at home, but really knew their stuff!

My husband is a tough old bird and stubborn as the day is long.  That attitude has caused many conflicts in our marriage and is probably why he has done as well as he has with this surgery.  He was sent home a day early and is home recuperating nicely.  He can’t quite understand why he is so tired, but here is an example of what his body just went through.  http://www.boneandjoint.com/ourservices/education/Pages/education.aspx#animations

Seven years ago he broke his hip in a motorcycle accident.  Did I say broke?  He shattered the socket that sits in the pelvis.  He was put back together at the OU Medical Center by Traumatologist Dr. David Teague known as the Humpty Dumpty doctor.  He puts them back together  again. https://www.oumedicine.com/department-of-orthopedic-surgery-and-rehabilitation/general-program-info/faculty/david-c-teague-md .  The surgery was a success and we were told at the time he would eventually have to have a complete hip replacement in a year or two. He waited seven years.  Did I mention my husband is stubborn?  As it happened his body grows great bone – too much bone in unusual places.  He had a lot in the soft tissue surrounding the joint that had to be removed and also in between the newly created socket and ball.  It had to come out.

So now we wait, and heal, and rest. I try to give him good food and help him keep the incision clean and dry.  He does his exercise twice a day and starts Physical Therapy next week. He should be off for six weeks.  I wonder if he will make it that long before he gets antsy and needs something to do.  That’s when the real work starts.  The work of trying to find enough to do without doing too much.  Balance. Wish us luck.

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AN UNBALANCED PERENNIAL GARDEN

20140518_104251 (1)    The sweet smell of decaying leaves crawl up my nose and lodge in my sinus cavities.  Nothing is blooming yet, but the odor of foliage is all around me.  Leaves have become compost to nourish all that grows there.

I’m a little late cleaning out the perennial gardens this year, but I found the front ones weren’t as bad as they might have been.   New sprouts push their way towards the sun through the neglect. But some things are always the same, like the weeds popping up without benefit of moisture or fertilizer.  Still, pulling them from the earth releases a scent near and dear to my heart – the good earth.

Like Meg in my soon to be released novel “Secrets of Sandhill Island,” I find solace in my garden.  It sustains me.  My hands ache from clutching the rake, my back cramps from bending over too long, and I smile at the promise of flowers to come.  It’s worth the pain to see God’s hand at work and the miracle of flowers coming back year after year – even when they’re neglected by the gardener.

It’s been a tough week.  I had a dentist appointment for a crown and a dermatology visit turned into a biopsy and stitches.  Nothing earthshattering just a reminder that I’m not as young as I once was and time marches on.  There have been more needles in my face in the last week than the last ten years.  My body aches.

I think I’ll clean out the back gardens next.  The dog, my ever present companion, will help me. Who knows what we may find.

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BALANCING MOTHER’S DAY THROUGH THE YEARS

fawn brandi peggy    Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers reading this blog and the people who love them.  I know how hard you work to balance your life with those you love. And I know you wouldn’t have it any other way.  Women work twice as hard as men in all that they do – because they love their work. They love their jobs (well, sometimes), they love their homes, but mostly they love their families.

In this sweet picture of my mother, daughter and me, there are three generations of mothers. It was also taken by a hard-working mother who held down a photography studio while balancing a home life.  You can see the love in the faces that obviously favor each other. This picture, taken about 14 years ago, was carefully posed while my mother was having a good day.  Her oxygen bottle was in the car – just in case.  The lung cancer had not taken her fragile body yet.  She still had about another year before the inevitable.

marie kathy peggy    While taking a trip down memory lane looking for pictures of motherhood, I found this one taken when I was just beginning my journey with the other side of my family.  Pregnant at the ripe old age of 19, I was scared to death.  But, I had a village of mothers, sisters, mothers-in-law, and sisters-in-law behind me with the wealth of knowledge they brought with them. I would make it, even though there were times when I didn’t know how.  I even went on to have another child, this one more boisterous than the first, but no less fun.    peggy chad and brandi

Then many years later came grandmother hood.  I had forgotten how much work kids could be and I had forgotten how wonderful they could make your day.  Their amazing take on life cannot help but rub off on you with the wonder in their eyes at the things you have come to think of as mundane.  This little guy was the inspiration for many children’s books in the years to come.    peggy and ethan

I wish a wonderful Mother’s Day to you as you reminisce about the good times and enjoy your family.  Happy Mother’s Day!

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BALANCING A WIN AT THE OWFI WRITERS CONFERENCE

20140504_130558    This week I’m trying to balance being a mature woman with the excitement of winning FIRST PLACE in the Science Fiction Short Story Category at OWFI!  And I think the kid in me is winning.  I had no idea my short story “The Manuscript” would even place, which makes the win that much sweeter.  There were 920 entries and 35 categories to enter. The competition was great.

The OWFI http://www.owfi.org/ Conference  is always the first weekend in May and one of the highlights of my year.  This weekend it was even better with a 5th Honorable Mention for my western Short Story “He Called her Sally,” and first place for “The Manuscript.”My hat is off to President Christine Jarmola and her board for putting together another great conference.

The Key Note Speaker, New York Times Bestselling Author Eloisa James, http://www.eloisajames.com/ was phenomenal. Not only is she a great author and speaker, she is a wonderful person.  She ended up sitting on the floor with us in a buzz session hosted by The Wildrose Press and actually bought my book!  (she bought most every book in the place to promote our work, but it made me feel special).  She was very genuine.   Eloisa and Chantell

I had a chance to talk to my publisher, Rhonda Penders, and my editor, Ally Robertson, of The Wildrose Press  http://www.wildrosepublishing.com/.   I met them last year, but since that time our correspondence has only been through email.  It is so nice to actually be able to sit and talk to the people that are trying so hard to make you look good.

I ran into my friend from high school, Mary McIntyre Coley http://www.marymcintyrecoley.com  and we sat together for our book signings.  It gave us time to catch up a little and enhanced the experience by sharing it with someone from my past that has the same interests as I do.  peggy and mary

The Enid Writers’ Club http://enidwriters.com/ had 8 people in attendance at the weekend-long conference which is twice as many as usual.  Our president elect Marsha Kay Oldham won the Most Creative Costume at the Friday night costume party.  It was great fun and I think I’ll dress up next year also.

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I truly enjoyed all the sessions I attended and learned many things from different authors on the craft of writing as well as the craft of marketing once the book is written.

Once again, I can’t wait until next year!

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Balancing Edits

wildrose    This week I have been trying to find enough time to finish the edits on my upcoming suspense novel Secrets of Sandhill Island for my wonderful editor, Ally Robertson of The Wildrose Press http://www.wildrosepublishing.com.  Like most editors (the good ones at least) she is more than my editor, she is my friend and sometimes my nemeses.  She makes me look good.

We barely got started and the first thing she wanted was for me to delete four chapters.  What? Those were important scenes!  Well, okay at least two of them were, the other two could be worked in here and there.  Maybe.  But, the first two?  She said they detracted from the main character and slowed the progression of the story. Hum.  Alright, maybe I could use them later in a short story or something.  After all I gave birth to them, they are like my children.   Begrudgingly, I took them out – but I saved them under the heading “deleted scenes.”

And guess what?  She was right.  The story does move better now. How did that happen?  Oh, I know, I let someone else edit my work – someone who knew what they were doing.

I’ve let life lead me astray lately and consequently didn’t finish my edits as quickly as my self-imposed schedule thought I should.  So, I’m trying to catch up.  OMG is it almost May?  Next week is the OWFI conference and I hope to see Ally there.  In fact I was hoping to have my edits to her before then.  That will take some work, but maybe . . .

I’m working on it Ally, really. This is gonna’ be great!

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BALANCING PAIN AND ANGER IN OUR LIVES

Anger_2-300x206    Do you lose your temper when your physical pain level is increased?  An incident took place a local restaurant today that brought that question to mind.  It is so easy to lash out at perfect strangers that you will never see again because you are hurting.

Man number one was in pain and man number two was inconsiderate – it almost created a physical incident that would not have ended well for anyone.  Words were exchanged in the parking lot and once inside it continued with the over-worked waitress – someone else who was also possibly in pain.  She did not look well and consequently her professionalism was lacking. The anger escalated.

I had a tough week at work due to outside influences and sometimes found it difficult to be nice.  I came home and vented to someone who was as stressed as I was.  I quickly realized I had to check my irritation at the door because what I was feeling really had nothing to do with my co-workers and everything to do with other incidents.  I had to take a deep breath and step back.  It really wasn’t that bad when you looked at it from a distance.  Sometimes you can be too close to a subject.

It is so easy to forget you are not the only person who is hurting.  Not the only one with problems.  Anger begets anger and violence could be the end result if not held in check.  It is no wonder that we are a warring people who are quick to combat and slow to forgive when we are unable to keep our anger in check.

Is it because we are hurting that we want others to hurt as well – to make them feel as we do – or is it just because we forget how to be kind because of our own pain? Mankind has a long way to go.

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